"ImmoralMinority" (araimondo)
10/14/2016 at 19:59 • Filed to: None
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"ImmoralMinority" (araimondo)
10/14/2016 at 19:59 • Filed to: None | 6
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This is my favorite picture of the Sunchaser and is the wallpaper on my phone. That was a perfect day.
About a month ago, I posted about that Monterey to Morro Bay drive on Highway 1. That experience has gotten me thinking (along with today’s post about bad friends). That drive was the best experience I have had in a long time. Driving a route that had me out of cell coverage on one of the most amazing roads in the world by myself was incredibly peaceful. I can’t remember a time that I felt that happy and at peace, and I can’t help but feel that it was because I was alone, not in spite of it. I have a weird urge to take multi-day Sunchaser trips by myself. Something might be wrong with me, but that solitude with the car was .... something.
Everyone talks about how tough these old Toyotas are and I want to put some mileage on this thing. I bought my Infiniti in 2015 and it has 32000 miles. I’m used to driving - I like it.
Is this desire for driving solitude wrong for a person with a family? How can I justify planning time without them? What is wrong with me?
jkm7680
> ImmoralMinority
10/14/2016 at 20:15 |
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I personally hate doing shit alone.
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> ImmoralMinority
10/14/2016 at 20:17 |
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Nothing wrong with that. I routinely drive up the I5 corridor from Portland to Seattle, alone. And even if the drive is mostly straight as an arrow, on the highway, and for work, I find that too incredibly relaxing. The drive back down, not so much, but it’s a small price to pay. I choose the drive over flying every time.
Now if I had the option for a more interesting car, and some beautiful vistas, it would only be that much better.
Alfalfa
> ImmoralMinority
10/14/2016 at 20:20 |
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It just means you’re likely an introvert, like myself. Social interactions drain your energy, and time alone is how you recharge. It doesn’t mean you’re anti-social or “wrong”. Just that some occasional alone time is beneficial to your happiness and overall mental health.
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> ImmoralMinority
10/14/2016 at 20:21 |
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Nah. I mean if your significant other isn’t interested in it I don’t see what’s wrong with pursuing your hobbies by yourself. I’ve actually read it’s a healthy relationship whatever mcjig.
daender
> ImmoralMinority
10/14/2016 at 20:22 |
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Sometimes you gotta step away from it all, go and drive until no one can bother you with texts or emails, and enjoy some peace in quiet away from life.
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> ImmoralMinority
10/14/2016 at 20:23 |
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I understand that. I like driving around with the windows down and just listening to the environment. No talking, maybe some music, but definitely no one else in the car
Wrong Wheel Drive (41%)
> ImmoralMinority
10/14/2016 at 20:25 |
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Welcome to the enjoyment of solitude! I love spending time with my girlfriend, I enjoy sports with other people, and engaging with coworkers is easy to me. But solo hiking and camping trips are when I truly am in my happy place. Coordinating with other people is annoying. Just going out to nature and enjoying the silence is very rewarding. Same can be said about a midweek Canyon drive to nowhere. Hwy 33 out of Ojai is perfect for this. It truly goes nowhere so the only traffic will be like minded fun chasers. And even that is going to be light during the week. Anyways, solitude is a wonderful thing. You can have both that and positive interactions with others in your life. No need to choose one or the other.
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Wrong Wheel Drive (41%)
> jkm7680
10/14/2016 at 20:29 |
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Then you haven’t found the right shit to do. Sure, plenty of things can be enjoyable with others but I find it’s always worth finding something for just you. For me, it’s nature. But for others it might be crocheting a sweater or reading a book. Shit, there are so many things out there and doing it alone is a unique experience.
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Wrong Wheel Drive (41%)
> Alfalfa
10/14/2016 at 20:31 |
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I think it’s still healthy for extroverts. The same as people interactions sometimes are healthy for us introverts. I can’t stand being around people most times but I’ve found that a truly positive interaction with others is very rewarding on rare occasions.
Tristan
> ImmoralMinority
10/14/2016 at 21:46 |
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For years I would look forward to my annual solo drive from FL to MN and back. I no longer have the time to make long cross country treks... I NEED one.
Also, I have a winch on my Jeep because I would much rather wander off into the woods solo than with a group.
You are most definitely not the only one.
JGrabowMSt
> ImmoralMinority
10/14/2016 at 22:18 |
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My girlfriend has pretty bad anxiety that can be easily triggered and long story short, it makes things complicated.
That said, she doesnt really enjoy going on long drives like I do. It is difficult for me to find the balance of getting my long drive in while also being relatively close to her, should something come up. I certainly know the pain.
What I would say is that instead of finding time alone, maybe just find the time to disconnect. Bring the wife, bring a kid, all one at a time, and just try to point things out to appreciate. No books, no phones, just look out the window and spot things. Find a place to pull over, find a view thats breathtaking and share it. I certainly know (being the youngest in my family) that people get older and spending time together becomes difficult. Maybe know that once in a while, yes, its important to chase the sun alone, but dont give up the opportunity to share that now. It only gets harder to share it later.